Dating can be fun and exciting, but it can also be nerve-wracking and exhausting if you’re trying to find ‘the one.’ How to date properly can vary from person to person. Everyone has an opinion about certain things you should do and certain things you should not do while dating. Sometimes we aren’t even aware of how we are coming off on our dates. But when Mr. Perfect doesn’t call us after dinner, we wonder what went wrong? It’s not always you – maybe there just wasn’t a connection, which is completely fine. But occasionally, we need to recognize if it is something we said or something we did. Here are 5 essential dating no-no’s that you should be ingrain in your head (and heart).
5 Dating No-No’s
Fault Finding – While dating, it’s common for us to find something wrong with the other person. It’s as if we want to know what is the reason this man or woman is single. What do I need to prepare myself for? It’s important to be aware of red-flags, but occasionally people can take this a little too far. The real truth is that if you are fault finding, you are not ready to be in a relationship. The act of finding things wrong with your date is a way to not engage in an intimate relationship. If you notice you are trying to find what is wrong with your date, rather than what is right, you need to take a step back and look at yourself.
The Next Person – This is the person that is never satisfied with whom they are dating. They always think there is something bigger and better around the corner. You know what is actually around the corner? Loneliness – if you keep that up. Because of online dating and social media, we can view the potential options out there which can be a good thing and a bad thing. Make a list of the things that are important to you to have in a partner. No more than 5 things. That way you know what you’re looking for and you can be realistic with yourself.
Negative Nancy – No one likes a complainer, and this obviously applies to dating as well. Sometimes we are not even aware of the comments we make. “This chicken is gross” or “I wish we had picked a different restaurant”. These comments are fine when you truly know your date or you’re in that comfortable phase. But dating is putting the BEST you forward, and the best you does not include being negative.
The Over-sharer – This is the male or female that shares a bit too much. Sharing personal information is essential in order for your date to get to know you better. But you should know where to draw the line. You want to put your best foot forward, so maybe skip that story about your crazy ex that won’t stop calling you. Save your date from hearing about that month you became a lush and made out with half of the men in that bar. Take note of your date’s reactions when you’re telling stories. If you keep seeing that big eyed freak out look on first dates, I suggest you start under-sharing.
Me, Myself and Me – Now, it’s important to share things about yourself when dating, but it can’t be a one way street. A great date should be like ping-pong match, where you both go back and forth sharing. It shouldn’t be one person doing all the talking. Ask your date questions about himself/herself and show that you’re interested in him/her. Your date will appreciate that you’re curious. And trust me, curiosity did not kill the cat, it only enhanced the date.