Finding The Good After A Break Up
A break up is traumatizing, harrowing and life-changing. While you’re in the midst of a broken heart, it’s hard to find any strength to go on. Your friends and family tell you ‘you deserve better’ or ‘you’ll be stronger after this,’ but your heart doesn’t believe it yet. The truth is this strength takes time. And boy, will it come. With every new day comes new emotions. After all the tears have been shed, you’ll start to awaken a power within yourself that you never knew you had. You’ll start to recognize the changes in yourself, your mind and your heart. Sometimes the hardest things we go through are the best things. It’s a tough pill to swallow. But take that pill with a glass half full and you’ll end up feeling much stronger.
6 Reasons Why A Break Up Can Be The Best Thing For You
When all the dust and confusion fades and you can see with a clearer eye, you will have your aha! moment. This may be the moment you completely realize and believe you deserve better. Or it could be the time you fully understand that love is not enough. Whatever this wake up call is for you, you will finally have it. And this powerful realization will feel oh so good.
When you’re caught up in a relationship gone wrong, you’re used to putting your needs second. Your partner and the relationship itself is on your mind 24/7. Your wants and needs have taken a back seat for far too long. Once you are free of this, you will have all the time in the world to find yourself again. No more backseat for you. You’re driving the car now. You will discover who you are, what you want in your own life and what you want in a future partner. You get to explore yourself and it will be the most appealing journey yet.
Not Living Life By Fear
Far too often we get stuck in unhealthy relationships because fear is holding us down. We are fearful to leave because we are afraid of the unknown, afraid of feeling pain and afraid to be alone. But the beautiful part of surviving a breakup is that you faced that fear. And eventually you will overcome it. After realizing you can go through this, you will be less fearful in the future. Your painful experiences have made you more capable than ever. The world is your oyster. Now go out and play.
You might think that rejection would destroy your self-esteem, but on the contrary. Being in a relationship where you feel taken advantage of or never truly feel loved will hurt your self-worth much more. Once you are out of this, you feel a sense of freedom and appreciation for yourself. You are now in charge of feeding your self-esteem and self-worth. It is no longer dependent on another person. You will start to feel desired by others in a way you might have missed before. You will start to realize the strength you had through this breakup and it will give you a whole new appreciation of yourself. This is the beginning of an exquisite love affair between you and you.
During the hardest moments in our lives we really see who our true friends are. On the other hand, it might also reveal friends that aren’t the most helpful. But cherish and take hold of the people who are there to comfort and support you through this rough time. If you focus on the positive people, it will make you feel more loved than you could have ever hoped for. This is an amazing time to rekindle friendships and create long-lasting relationships with people who actually want to be in your life. Look at this moment in your life as a way to re-connect with wonderful people. You have all the time in the world now — good and loyal friendships included.
One of the most important things that can come from a relationship and the end of one is that you are left with life lessons. These lessons will change your world and shape your future. You will know more about yourself and what you want out of a relationship. You will have a better understanding of what you desire versus what you need. These lessons are priceless and worth all the heartache in the world. And one day you’ll finally be able to say, “This breakup was the best thing to ever happen to me.”