A Date with the Lady Doctor
Growing up, most girls learn from their mothers. They usually learn how to make their mother’s special recipes, or their mother teaches them how to hem their favorite pair of pants, etc. That wasn’t necessarily what I was taught. Instead, my mother taught me all I needed to know about the vagina and sex. Hold up. Maybe this is the part where I should tell you she is an OB-GYN Nurse Practitioner. Yes, a lady doctor. And boy o’ boy did I learn my fair share of interesting facts about vaginas, safe sex and STD’s. I asked my mother to share her words of wisdom and this is what she has come up with…
5 Things Your Gynecologist Wants you to know
Tell the truth – You may not want to fess up about that threesome on your birthday or the one night stand with that handsome Italian you met in the bar, but tell, tell, tell. If your health care provider doesn’t have all the info, she can’t give you the best care. Believe me, she’s heard it all. She won’t judge you, but if she does, you are most definitely in the wrong office.
Be clean, but not TOO clean – When showing up for your date with the gynecologist, you’ll want to be ‘so fresh and so clean, clean.” Of course, take a shower, but NO douching. She needs to see all that stuff that you’re trying to get rid of. If you are having symptoms of a possible infection, don’t make it a game of hide-and-seek.
Ask questions – This is not a “don’t ask, don’t tell” situation. If you have a question, ask it. This is your time to shine ladies. Your gyno may be good, but she’s no mind reader. Share your concerns and worries. Just go with that old saying, “there’s no such thing as a stupid question”.
Safety first – Let’s talk about sex, baby – safe sex though. Moms and great health care providers think alike. If you’re not in a mutually monogamous relationship, you always need to be thinking about safe sex out and about in the dating world. This means protection – from sexually transmitted infections, pregnancy and of course, protection of your emotional health and physical well-being.
Be comfortable – A great gynecologist will make you feel comfortable. She should try to make an otherwise not so pleasant visit, a positive experience. You are in a vulnerable position and very very naked. Nobody wants to take a ride in those stirrups! And, the less said about that speculum, the better. This should be an opportunity for you to learn, get healthy and feel empowered.