The Dating Department’s favorite reader submission this week comes from Lauren H. from Chicago. Her message of self-love is important and needs to be expressed more often in our society…
You is kind. You is smart. You is good.
The art of loving ourselves can be tricky. We are quick to recognize the strengths of others, yet when it comes to self-affirmation we can be blissfully ignorant. We sometimes choose to dwell on those things that we may not like so much about ourselves, instead of accentuating the positive. We see our downfalls instead of our step-ups. We agonize over our failures and errors.
So, I’m all about taking a fresh look in the mirror, literally. Check out that outer, as well as, that inner beauty. Have a mantra. Make a list: Ten things you love about yourself. Try on a new attitude for size. It may be more comfortable than you think. In fact, it may actually fit just right. Celebrate your uniqueness. Embrace your individuality. Let shine all of those amazing qualities that you may be keeping under wraps. Show the world what you’re made of. Enjoy what makes you special, different, and frankly, fabulous.
Shower some of that praise that you usually reserve for friends, on yourself. Remember your random acts of kindness and those good deeds. It doesn’t have to be big – what about the lady at the grocery store that you let go in front of you in line? What about that bag of clothes you dropped off at the Good Will? Give your own self a little bit of that “good will”.
Remember, we all make mistakes. Take them, own them, learn from them. It’s okay. Become your loudest cheerleader, instead of your own worst enemy. Acknowledge all the gifts you have to offer and share them. The reflection that you see can sparkle. You is kind. You is smart. You is good. Believe it.