I Will Survive (A Breakup)
A breakup is an earth-shattering event that can leave you feeling intense emotions that are hard to even put into words. Having your heart broken is soul crushing in so many ways. You’re left feeling immense pain, sadness, anger, loneliness, hopelessness and much more. But most of all, it can also be shocking. It feels like a traumatic event that you replay over and over in your mind, but sadly you can’t wake up from this nightmare. Your brain is going a million miles a minute trying to make sense of it all. It’s the rejection you never wanted and yet, everything is out of your control. This first week is the hardest because you are feeling so many different emotions.
How do you get through it? How do you survive this pain that is so strong? A pain that you can literally feel in your heart and your bones. You are grieving a death – a death of a relationship, a death of the future you had imagined in your head, a death of security and safety that love once had to offer you. What you need is support and knowing where to get that is everything…
5 Things to Help Your Heartbreak
Friends – Your friends are what will carry you through this pain. When you are feeling weak, they will make you strong. They are there to remind you of the amazing person you are, inside and out. They are the ones that will bring over some wine and when you’re ready for it, the Sex and The City DVD collection. As hard as it may be, reach out to your friends right away and let them know that you are going to need them. They want to be there for you and help you through this devastating loss.
Waterproof mascara – Man oh man, you are going to be thankful you have some waterproof mascara. It’s important to feel your feelings, instead of pushing them down or distracting yourself. The only horrible side-effect of crying (other than crying itself) is having the whole world know with those black tears. Have a friend head on over to your local drugstore and pick you up some waterproof mascara. This way, you can still cry yourself a river, but without the messy back’lash’.
Mom or “mother-like” figure – Having your mother comfort you in this time of need is something we all yearn for and need. Knowing your mother will always be there for you and she’ll just hold you and say “everything is going to be okay” is just what the doctor ordered. However, some of us are not always so lucky in the mother department. If that’s you, hopefully you have a “mother-like” figure in your life full of wisdom and advice. There’s something so comforting about hearing loving words from a woman who has been there herself.
Animals – Being comforted by your pet during a breakup is definitely a must need. Animals are so caring and can sense your emotional state of distress. Giving love to your pet during this time can be extremely therapeutic. So grab a hold of your dog and cry cry away. An added bonus is that your dog/cat won’t judge you and you can talk about your ex for hours and hours and he or she won’t mind.
Reality TV – During the first week of a breakup, it’s hard to do anything to distract. Your world has just collapsed and you feel as if you are going down with it. Distraction to the extreme is unhealthy, but sometimes you need one hour in your day to not think and feel the pain. Insert reality television. Most scripted shows have some sort of “love” aspect in the show and you might not be ready for that. Watching something mindless and dramatically crazy like Real Housewives of The Kardashians is more zany and less lovey dovey seriousness. Let Vicki Gunvalson’s wackiness take away your blues for an hour, or just knowing that Khloe Kardashian has been there too with Lamar (in front of the whole world) can help.