Seeing the world through dark-colored glasses
There are glass half full people and then there’s glass half empty people. You know them both. You are one of them or sometimes both of them. Maybe on the weekend you’re a glass half full person (filled with vodka), and then Monday rolls around and your cup is empty. It’s one thing to have ups and downs, but it’s another when it’s how you view life. Being pessimistic is feeling sorry for yourself and letting life pass you by, while you silently grunt at the world.
Far too often, we don’t think about our attitude towards life and how it affects us as people and our relationships. Seeing the world through Negative Nancy glasses colors how you view everything. It’s not just thoughts, because those ‘thoughts’ turn into actions. You become unmotivated and unwilling to change. This is the guy that says things like “no one is ever going to like me, why should I even try?”. Or the girl who’s constantly talking about how she will never get her dream job. Or better yet, the couple that is constantly unhappy about their relationship, but doing nothing to fix it. How do you change if you are that Pessimistic Patty I am talking about? Behold the power of positivity. So raise your glasses because we’re cheering to filling that glass of yours up!
5 Ways of Filling up Your Glass
Being aware – Being aware is the first step to changing. You can’t fix your negativity if you’re reluctant to acknowledge it. Coming to a realization that you need to change is powerful. This humbling act of awareness does not mean you are weak. On the contrary, people who can admit they are not “perfect” and need to change are brave and courageous. Now that you know, you can begin to grow.
Gratitude list – When people are cynical, they often contemplate how all is wrong within the world and their lives. Now I want you to do the opposite. Make a list of all the things in your life you are thankful for. And I promise you, you can find something. Look at this list every morning before you start your day.
Fake it ‘till you make it – Just like that orgasm you once faked, you can fake positivity as well. I know it sounds kooky, but once you fake it to the world around you, sometimes your mind starts to believe it as well. You put out positive actions and behaviors that will start to set happiness in motion. Studies show that smiling even when unhappy can trick your mind into thinking you are indeed happy go-lucky.
Change your behavior – Sometimes it’s easier to change a behavior than it is to change a thought. You need to begin making little changes day by day. Pessimistic people usually become overwhelming by daunting tasks and resort back to their unhappy ways. That’s why it’s crucial to start out small and take things slowly. Give a random stranger a compliment one day, or open the door for your neighbor. These little acts of kindness will kick you off in the right direction.
Positive environment – The Beatles were right when they said “I get by with a little help from my friends.” Because boy oh boy do you need positive friends and family to help bring you up. Take a solid look at the people in your life and how their moods affect yours. Maybe it’s time to dump that friend who is talking sh*t about other people. Or rethink that friendship that’s always bringing you down. Misery loves company, so keep a watch on yours.