Dating & Relationship Myths
There are many myths out there that people believe to be true. They don’t stop with the Loch Ness Monster – somehow they find their way into your love life. Whether it’s dating myths coming from your crazy aunt or from the lips of your best friend, you’ve heard them all. Somewhere along the line, you stopped knowing what was “right” and what was “wrong” and just started believing them. Unfortunately, some of these myths are completely incorrect and can lead to expectations that cannot be met.
Here are 5 dating and relationship myths that could be bringing you down.
5 Myths To Ignore
Men Aren’t Emotional – The debate still stands of whether or not men are as emotional as women. After conducting a study on the emotions of men, Dr. David Lewis stated, “Men feel emotion just as much as women, sometimes more strongly, but are less willing to express these emotions openly due to expectations put on them by society.” To believe the myth that men are not emotional at all is doing a disservice to yourself and your mate. Furthermore, if you desire an emotionally available man, then you can absolutely find one. All men aren’t created equal. Some men are able to express and feel their emotions quite easily because they grew up in a society that allowed for this. So next time you excuse your man for not expressing his feelings, or believe you’ll have to go emotionally hungry, think again!
Don’t Go To Sleep Angry With Your Partner – Throw this myth away, along with those old worn out sheets of yours. When couples are upset with each other after an argument, it takes time to cool down. Some people take longer to get their thoughts together, while others want to talk it out right away. Each person needs their own time to get over things and if that means going to bed angry, then so be it. It’s more important that when you and your partner communicate about the problem that you are both in a better state of mind. Rest does a body good, as well as a relationship.
Men Should Always Pay The Bill – Times are a changing and so are the dating rules. Every person has his or her own ideas about money and relationships. That’s okay. But if you’re just assuming that the male should pay the bill for every date, it doesn’t sound like this is a joint decision. Whether it’s a first date or your 20th, it’s nice to offer up. Each couple needs to decide what their views are on money and what’s right for them. Just remember what happens when you assume…
Love Is All You Need – The Beatles might have had a song about it, but how right were they? Sure, love is amazing and when you’re in love, you can feel like you’re on top of the world. But does that mean it’s the end all, be all? Believing the ‘love is all you need’ notion leads us to think that life is all about finding love and nothing else. It assumes that you aren’t whole until you find love. This idea of love can also leave you hanging on to a toxic relationship because you two “love” each other. But sadly, love isn’t always enough. You need love to be in a healthy relationship, but how about we don’t discount trust, honesty, loyalty, healthy communication and respect.
Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater – This is a saying that people use constantly, but what evidence do we have to make this true? Of course, there are people in the world that cheat over and over again in every relationship. But there are also people who cheated in past relationships that were unhappy and unhealthy, but would never cheat ever again. According to a study in the Journal of Sex Research, the factors of the specific relationship were more significant than individual factors in predicting the act of cheating. Or some have cheated when they were young, stupid and naive. People have the ability to change. Just because you or someone you know cheated once, doesn’t mean your destiny is to be a lifelong cheater. By believing this myth, you are labeling yourself or another person and not giving any room for change or growth.