Don’t You Know That You’re Toxic?
Toxic relationships. You either know someone who’s been in one, you’ve been in one yourself, or you’re currently going through the ups and downs of one. Either way, it’s a tumultuous time and you don’t know why you can’t leave. Being in a toxic relationship is like a roller coaster ride you didn’t know you were in line for, and you don’t know how to get off. Moments of the ride are fun and thrilling, but the lows are nauseating and exhausting. And the ride just keeps going through loop after loop after loop.
Like any recovery program would say, the first step to getting off this roller coaster of a relationship is becoming aware. You need to understand what is keeping you staying in an unhealthy relationship. This means truly being honest with yourself and your heart. Once you recognize that you’re in a toxic relationship and why you can’t let go of it, you’re on the right ‘track’ to getting out.
6 Reasons Why You Might Not Be Ready To Leave
Fear Of Being Alone – The thought of being alone is too tough to bear for you. You know you shouldn’t be in this relationship anymore, but being single doesn’t sound much better. It feels like you’re working with the lesser of two evils here. It’s very common for people to say, “well I’d rather be in this relationship than in no relationship at all.” But in all actuality, being in a toxic relationship is slowly chipping away at your self-worth every day. Being single and alone isn’t a piece of cake either, but it’s a piece that is easier to swallow as time goes on. And as time passes, you’ll eventually love the taste of that cake.
Not Wanting Your Partner To Be With Someone Else – When you think about breaking up with your significant other, it’s quite normal for your mind to wander to him or her finding someone new. This is the last thing you want to think about. It feels like torture to envision this. However, at the end of the day, you can’t stay in a relationship just because of this fear. This relationship isn’t working and instead of focusing on who he or she will end up with, think about how you could find yourself in a happy and healthy relationship later on.
Enjoying The Ride – It’s okay to admit it, you like the drama. The ups and downs, the highs and lows – it can be electrifying at times. The highs of this relationship are keeping you going and it’s what you’re holding on to. This crazy ride gives you the mentality that you “can go through anything together” and that you are closer than ever. It’s you and your partner against the world. It’s time to take a true moment and ask yourself if there’s anything about the toxicity that you secretly enjoy.
Insecurities – And even though you probably wouldn’t admit this to anyone, your insecurities can keep you from breaking it off. Thoughts like “who’s going to love me?” or “I’m 10 pounds overweight and I won’t be able to find another person like this” are more prevalent than you would imagine. But, being in a toxic relationship can make you feel more and more insecure about yourself.
Fear Of Feeling Pain – It’s human nature to avoid pain and suffering. Therefore, it’s quite usual for people to avoid the act of breaking up. You know what’s to come once you end it and that makes it all the more terrifying. However, the pain of being in an unhealthy relationship can be even more painful than the pain of a broken heart. Breaking up and moving forward will be painful and it will hurt, but it will be a momentary pain that you can endure to find peace and happiness within yourself later on.
Having To Start All Over – Ugh, starting all over is daunting. Whether it’s starting all over in life (having to find a new place) or starting all over in the world of love, it’s the last thing you want to do. Thinking of having to meet another person’s parents all over again or having to make another online dating profile feels unsettling. But, as we know, change is tricky and hard, but in the end, it’s always needed.
Photo Courtesy : We Heart It